Start asking questions
Just because things have always been done a certain way, that doesn't mean it's right. It may just mean, it's comfortable.
Although it may be uncomfortable to go against the grain. It is ok to do things different, to think through things different, to approach things different.
If you don't know WHY you're doing what you're doing, or WHY you believe what you believe, maybe it's time to start asking questions.
Remember, the BIBLE still has the answers.
The HOLY SPIRIT still guides into all truth.
PRAYER still works and PASTORS still care.
Do what's right because you've prayed through it, got counsel on it, studied your Bible, and have trusted the Holy Spirit, not your own personal spirit.